The Imperfect Pethe.

Background

It was 2013–14. Facebook used to have social groups back then. We used to schedule in-person meetings at public spaces like local malls.

I had met someone named Mr. Pethe about that time. The gathering was for and by people connected to the Brahman caste. We also decided at that same meeting to form a committee to organize educational lectures at Brahman Sanghas for more Brahman pupils and other children from the surrounding area.

First, since I had connections with Sanghas for the hall reservation and with professionals who would offer their knowledge in Marathi, I was mostly responsible for organizing all three of the lectures.

There were three of us primary leads making choices.

However, it all began on the first day when I gave The Pethe a call.

That day, I called Pethe and we said, “Let’s get together and begin organizing the group activity that we talked about earlier.” Yes, we should carry out this kind of activity, he agreed. I then told him that after he joined this group, we could speak with Godbole to find out whether he was interested in participating in this activity.

I then put the phone down.

I next tried calling Mr. Godbole, but he was abruptly unavailable, so I tried calling Mr. Pethe again, and sure enough, his phone was engaged as well.

I am aware of everyone’s The Pethe Double Gaming. Godbole informed me that Pethe had phoned him to suggest starting a group, and that Pethe had already discussed the idea with Apte, who was in agreement. He therefore managed to convince them that forming the group was his idea.

I learned more about his thinking and insecurities the more I interacted with him.

Here were some things I observed about him:

1. He would explain that his mother passed away from cancer, implying that she had abandoned him nearly five or six years prior, and he would make various mouth noises. However, once he begins making this claim repeatedly in every meeting to draw everyone’s attention to his miserabilty and love for his mother, it becomes unbearable.
2. He once claimed that his college girlfriend broke up with him because she was irritated by his actions and had rudely and inappropriately complained to his mother.
3. When I questioned him about his ex-girlfriend, he explained that it was because he was really interested in astrology.
4. I discovered he was two hours late when we first met. We headed to the hotel since he was hungry right away. And after asking for my birthdate at our first encounter, which lasted only two minutes, he abruptly declared that our numerologies were not compatible and that we would not get along. However, the numerology theory proved to be accurate because his juvenile mind tricks never made us get along.
5. I once questioned him about his monthly income. He claimed to teach one child piono on the weekends in addition to individual lessons. When I questioned him about his pay, he replied that he receives INR 200/-per hour for each lecture he attends in that class. Upon his clarification that he occasionally attends two classes per week, I discovered that his monthly income was a meager INR 1,600.
6. I later found out why his girlfriend broke up with him. He once remarked that since no one marries a primary school teacher, no girl is eager to marry him. It is appropriate that brides should question about a groom’s income and finances first, especially if he makes a meagre INR 1,600/-per month in this day and age.
7. He also read the patrikas of those who contacted him; he used to charge for this service. It’s funny because he used to make fun of their suffering after posting every patrika reading in its entirety on Facebook. And discuss their Jatakas’ sexual lives.
8. This was just another financial scam that he was pulling up. He used to drive a car that cost three lakhs and six lakhs, and he used to wear Levis jeans and Raban sunglasses. After all of this, he used to punch or swipe his father’s credit card on Father Has His Own Name. Therefore, he never owned the money that he was spending.
9. As a result of his despair, lack of employment, and contentment with using his father’s credit card, the individual was psychologically, emotionally, financially, and socially ruined.
10. As I mentioned earlier, I communicated with prominent people, including Brahman Sanghas. He claimed to have phoned me one day to discuss an important matter before meeting Sangha Comeetee. He abruptly showed up and demanded money. Funding his noble works should be done in an emotionally tainted way, since he is Brahman Sangha.
11. However, it became increasingly annoying every day when he would phone me at six in the morning and everyone would say, “You should apologize to that specific woman who felt offended.” Why, I inquired. He claimed that she felt insulted and ashamed of the circumstances because I had put on the group encouraging everyone to submit an idea and she was unable to do so.
12. He dismissed everyone from the group one by one after I left and everything felt off, upsetting and insulting me with his haughty and irrational behavior patterns.
13. The group is no longer active, or perhaps he is talking to himself in the WhatsApp group and the group itself is empty.

Tell me what you think of Pethe and whether you’ve ever met him or come across someone who is similar to him.

Regards and gratitude
Mandar Apte